Why Did My Husband Have to Die

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My husband was not a philosopher. He was a man who owned fourteen rubber chickens and used them to greet the mailman. Every single day. The mailman quit twice. After Dave died, I found a rubber chicken in his sock drawer with a note: "Use this when you’re sad. It makes a ridiculous noise."

So I squeezed it. It sounded like a dying goose trapped in a kazoo factory. And I laughed. Not a polite chuckle—a heaving, snot-bubble, I-hope-my-neighbors-don’t-call-adult-protective-services cackle. That was the moment I realized: death can take the man, but it cannot take the absurdity. And thank goodness, because absurdity is the only life raft in the ocean of grief.

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First, talk to the dead. I do it in the shower. I tell Dave about my day, the terrible judge show I’m watching, and how the cat ate a moth. He doesn’t answer, but I imagine him sighing and saying, "Honey, you’re shampooing with conditioner again." It’s freeing.

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Second, schedule your meltdowns. I set a timer for 10 minutes every afternoon. I cry, scream into a pillow, or aggressively fold laundry. When the timer goes off, I stop. It sounds insane, but my doctor said it’s a form of "grief containment." Also, it’s cheaper than therapy.

Third, find your herd. I joined a widow group on Facebook. We call ourselves "The Dead Husbands Club," and our logo is a wilted romance novel. We share the worst advice we’ve heard (like "just get a puppy"—thanks, Aunt Carol) and the best memes about forgetting to pay the electric bill. You are not alone, even when you feel like the only person in a crowd of couples holding hands.